- Player(s) describe what they are doing as if they are there as the character.
- Think about how to use the mechanics to resolve it.
- Tell the players how it going to be resolved.
- Listen to any feedback
- Have the players roll.
I personally don't mind feedback from the players. Often they think of things I don't. So after I tell them how it going to be resolved I will listen to what they have to say and make any changes I feel is warranted. But in the end the final decision is up to me.
I can't stress enough how always making sure that the players describe things before rolling is important for roleplaying. For me as well as the players. Often it leads to interesting details being revealed and enhances the encounter.